Somedays I’m gripped by the thought that I’m too old to be doing what I’m doing. I should’ve taken the leap way sooner when I was in my mid 20s, less risk averse and didn’t have a baby.
Now I’m not regretting my decision or anything, but I guess its easier when you do mindless things such as these when you’re single, or at least not a parent.
When you’re in your 20s, you also have so much drive, time, energy and guts to make stuff happen and are so eager to become better, successful people. By the time you head towards your 30th birthday, things slow down a bit. Call it maturity, experience or just contentment, getting older makes you want to run fewer sprints and do more marathons.
Am I too late to start? I googled this question. Google for me like for most other people is the modern day confession box where I ask my deepest fears and expect solace in the search results.
Apparently, like watching most Sex and the City episodes, its never too late to start. The clock starts ticking when you make the call to change your life and it doesn’t matter if you do so when you’re 15 or 50.
There are plenty of stalwarts who founded global businesses when they were 35; the founders of P&G, Carslberg, Linkedin etc to name a few and I still have a few years to go to reach that age.
Now I had a quarter life crisis in 2013 where I saw kids younger than me steaming forwards to reach their dreams and friends my age dropping it all to employ hundreds like myself. I had put in my papers and was somehow convinced by my boss to hang on (with the promise of finding a way to find space for my interests in office) . I now know that could’ve never happened. So maybe a little late, but I’ve pushed myself out of status quo and here I am.
I’m on my own path now. So, to think that I have fallen behind all others, will actually work against the whole principle of being a self-starter, which by definition means that you’re only competing with yourself, and if thats the case, how can you be late doing that?
My advice to those on the fringe (like I was) would be to take the leap when you start feeling stuffy. Don’t wait. Things don’t change by themselves. Just get up and get moving. Maybe you’ll be lost for while, but lets see if that is true as well.
Not all those who become something spectacular in life are born playing the guitar or even have a clue on whether they are heading straight on the path of the success. There are many meanderers like myself who till they were 30 were leading lives with ordinary stories, including the likes of Harrison Ford and JK Rowling. Until they became extraordinary. Now not every ordinary life does turn around this way, but some do. And that will be good enough for me to know for now.
Of course, in my case, I’m still on the path of learning and even there not all is lost. Julia Child didn’t know a thing about French cooking till she was well in her 30s and Vera Wang hadn’t designed a single dress till she was 39.
They came. They learnt. They conquered.
So maybe it’ll be harder. There’ll be fewer parties and more work. But maybe and just maybe I will too.