We often think that working for oneself assumes that you will have no boss hovering over you making exacting demands out of you and . Well, the little that I’ve seen so far, thats far from true.
Firstly, you are always working FOR someone, even if you are working on your own and that naturally means that an external body will always have an opinion on the output you produce. The only time this is not true is if you’re working and have no expectations of being remunerated with money.
Secondly, you HAVE to become your own boss. Which means you develop an alter-ego that takes on the role of a tough taskmaster. Making sure you’re up all night meeting deadlines, taking new initiatives and building new connections. Which means you end up hating yourself every now and then and can’t even complain about it (which is worse!)
So there’s never an escape from a boss, really. What you can just about do, is choose your boss. And that too, not all the time.
Our first bosses are our parents. And as children, we are conditioned to taking orders and following instructions from our parents. We may try and ‘rebel’ during the teen ages, but we’d pretty much go as far as dying our hair pink to prove our ‘independence. And we know that THAT doesn’t last really long. Heck, even the singer Pink is a regular blonde now!
Serfdom, colonisation, invaders and rulers further conditioned our race to be bossed around for eons and even the most alpha-types will succumb to some sort of domination in their lives. The cruelest moms-in-law fall prey to their grumpy husbands and the toughest politicians cower before their biggest supporters.
Good bosses are mythical creatures only read about in management journals. They are in real life, adversarial & combative beasts who are born to make your life a living hell.
In this play of power, everyone is struggling to hold the upper hand. To wield greater control and have more influence. Over our own lives. And those of others. So is it a wonder we try and fight it so much in the workplace?
The desire to be a master of our own destinies leads us to do some crazy things. From water-cooler gossip about the evil taskmasters to even putting in their papers (ahem!)
But all one realises, eventually, is that there is no escape. Wherever you go, you will find them. In different shapes and forms. And increasingly so, clad in diapers.
That’s what you strongly begin to believe as a mom of an 8 month old.
Because being a mother, is also a polite way of saying that you work for the pushiest boss ever. No holidays, no breaks, heck, not even peaceful pee time. Having a baby is an all consuming emotional and physical commitment and here is why I think so:
5 reasons why your baby is the toughest boss you’ll ever have!
- Babies aren’t always clear about what they want. You need to try a zillion options before the FIRST one works!
- They work tremendously long and odd hours. And will seriously look down upon you if you shirk responsibility.
- Babies, like most bosses have a hard time doing anything on their own. Well.. you basically need to guard them like a hound (pun unintended)
- They have a really strong knack of making you feel completely inadequate. Sometimes, nothing that you do works!
- They REALLY have no sense of respect for your personal time and space.
So, in case you are planning to leave your job because of boss woes, you may as well make your peace with it. It’s not getting better anytime soon.